Hello Gay guys,
It's been ages that I have not written this blog I hope you guys still stick with me here.
I do apologize as I had so many things going on lately; university things that always keep me busy such as my never-ending exams, my freelance job which is my main income and my social life which is the award of my life- great time in "DJ station".
Anyways, today I would like to fulfill you with this long but not loquacious article in order to make up for my absence.
And the article today goes to "Greng Jai" thingy!
Greng Jai - noun, adj., verb
If you don't know what Greng Jai is… I would like to explain first as "greng jai" is totally important for Thai people and it plays the key role on Thai society and of course this greng jai thing is undoubtedly part of your thai guy.
Greng Jai has various meanings depending on the situations and I am going to explain its meanings as many as possible.
To put this in simple way to explain I would say that Greng Jai is something really polite to do, it's the manners that all Thai people should have - let say that we all Thai were born with this DNA, the Greng Jai DNA - and unfortunately there's no "real" meaning in English that's why I have to explain every bit I can.
Greng Jai means "to be considered of someone's feeling"!
To be considered of someone's feeling is how you think of someone else's feelings before doing something. I will put this in situation;
You are in your office that is full of thai co-workers and you are assigned to do something, however, you can't finish your assignment without some help of one of your co-workers who really has this excellent skill to help you out within a few minutes but you have asked him to do this kind of thing for so many times even tho he would say he is glad to to help you but still you have to read about ice burg article to get what he really means.
So, this time you really really need his hand on this work but you feel really bad to ask him to help you again plus the guy just got dumped by his girlfriend that morning. What you have to do is to ask him to help "greng-jaily". All the polite languages that you were taught in high school, think about them and use it in this situation even tho it sounds like you are wearing mask against your co-worker but that how it works in Thailand. You may end up by treating him a drink, take him to some fabulous bar for his heartbroken party - if he is good-looking and you are lucky enough, he will turn gay for you ;)
And that's the situation of being considered of someone's feeling or Greng Jai.
Another meaning
Greng Jai as the meaning of "to feel obligated"
Now for those who never keep promises you should read this carefully!
Greng Jai is this meaning is meant for you to use when you promise someone to do something or you have the duty to do something.
No more bullsh*t let me put this in another situation!
Just like the above situation but let think in the way round for when you got asked by your co-worker (who is so damn cute and slightly gay) and of course you knew you could help him and you wanted to help him too! So you gave him promise that you will get it done for him.
Then the day has come, you just realized that it's your 1st year anniversary of your lovely relationship with your cute boyfriend and again you already gave your boyfriend such a beautiful promise to take him to sky bar. However, you haven't done what you promised your co-worker asked you to do.
Yeah, Sh*t happened but there was no choice for you any more. You could have just dismissed your co-worker or you would have had to start another "silent-war" drama with your boyfriend on that special day…. WHAT WOULD YOU DO NOW?
Be a maniac and irresponsible co-worker or dumba*s boyfriend?
Yeah now it's the feeling of "Greng Jai" Greng Jai your co-worker and your boyfriend as you have promised them.
Got it??
Ok let's continue…
The last meaning of this "headache" manner in Thai society.
Greng jai for the last one in English is … "to feel bad"
First I have to tell you one cliche about Thai people, that is, we always live in imaginary world - the place where we come up with many surreal things!
And by saying "surreal" I mean really surreal and futuristic - OKEY! here is the thing, Thai people always think beyond what is going to happen IF they do this or that and if the thing is going to turn to be BAD what should they do to make it better…
That's the origin of "Gren Jai" in the meaning of "to feel bad"
How??
Again, let me tell you fairy tale;
Alright,
One day you were in such a luxurious and magnificent restaurant with tons of lovely foods to please your boyfriend after you got your co-worker thing sorted out!
After a great meal, it came to the end and you felt completely stuffed but on the dinning table there was still a great dish remaining but you couldn't finish it anymore and seemed like your boyfriend had not had enough yet, of course, it's your boyfriend's duty now… You asked him to finish it for you and you got stunned when he refused to do that and this "why" questions popping up in your head… Just know that Your boyfriend was Greng Jaiing you
Why?
Because he thought that you and he should eat equally plus you maybe the one who would pay for that luxurious meal which means you had to eat more than he could do even tho he totally wanted to finish that dish so badly!
What you have to do is to ask him constantly not just leave it at that for once
Yeah here is the trick, when you feel that someone is having "feeling bad" greng jai you have to ask the person to have something constantly until he takes it and your mission accomplished!
In conclusion, Greng Jai basically has 3 meanings - from what my brain could think of - which mostly concern to a very very thai thing "Face losing" So what I am trying to say is if you want to Greng Jai, be greng Jai or Have Greng Jai ; Just think of one important thing, is that, not to make thai people lose their faces.
And This thing is totally useful for your thai guy
See you in next coming articles! Stay updated!
Love you all xoxxo
Scotty
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