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"I miss you" why does he really need that?

Hi guys,
First thing, I think you guys know that I have to push myself so hard on my project that I have informed you all in previous entry.

However,  this week is kinda a relaxing week for me and it is a good opportunity to write an entry (at least to make my blog not to be that abandoned)

Well, if you have or had thai boyfriend (including some asian boyfriend) and you have to be away from him for quite sometime you would realize that almost every of his messages that he sent you would always include the word "I miss you" and many of you might feel a little weird when that escalated way too quickly. Here is the quick and brief explanation guys.

According to our culture, no matter if it is gay or straight, thai people have the background culture on the idea of "missing somebody" and that runs too deep in us.

When you are away from your cute little thai boy, it means you will not be able to spend time with him and that kinda makes him feel like some part of him is missing.

When he keeps saying that a lot, it doesn't mean that he is being really obsessed with you (Well, I'd say that many thai guys can be really obsessive) but as you know that "miss you" means "think of you" and the reason that he keeps saying "I miss you" can mean that he always thinks of you (That's not obsession at all"

I think it is just because the relationship value that we had for each other (family, friends or lover) when you miss somebody it can also mean that "we care" which we kinda show it very obvious and way very often.

What to do when he starts to think that "You never missed him"? 

You know I totally understand you all that when you miss somebody it means that you have to really feel it not because it is the relationship code ( that you must do it whenever you can) and being away for a few days for you won't make you feel any different from you boyfriend so you don't seem to say that much to him - It's not something wrong at all.

Just explain him or keep telling him that you will be with him very soon. OR just say that you miss him - it is very simple.

However, if it is not what you usually do daily with your partner, it could be hard for you to force yourself to say it in every message you send to your partner. Just keep saying "I'm looking forward to seeing you"

And one other thing I think will work so well you, rather than saying "I miss you" you can start your conversation with something dirty (you know sexual stuff) you might not like it but that kinda distract your boyfriend somehow.


Alright guys, looks like I have to get back to my work.
Please stay tuned with me!
Once the Project is done you will be a part to help me out :)


Best of luck and I miss you all ( and I really feel it)

Scotty
<3

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