These things are "no no" for your relationship

Ever wonder why same-sex relationship, especially in Bangkok, ends really quickly? You have been seeing your friends - both western or asian - including yourself have been suffering from heartbreaking relationships and it happens for a reason or many reasons. You may know that major reasons are from how thai guys are such drama queens and when it comes to relationship, that never works.

Even tho drama queen thing could lead to a lot of tensions in relationship, believe me there is something more than that.

He wants to change you 

Thai culture is well-known for the care and concern and by saying care it can reach to the point of "too much" sometimes. Seeing from the ancestor and being inbred, most of Thai guys are very caring and when they are into you, you are like his whole world. What's problem with that? Well, everybody is not perfect and you might have some bad habits that he is not pleased which makes him want so hard to try to make you a better person or make you the person he fancies which, of course, makes you feel uncomfortable and it leads you to a major tension in relationship.

He's seriously addicted to smartphone

Well, gay and smartphone seem to be a real match as there is really low possibility for you to walk down silom street and not see gay guys walking without their smartphone on their hands - only 2 reasons why they don't use their smartphones; 1.) The phone is dead  and 2.) the phone is dead.

Smartphone keeps people apart from one another and of course imagine a relationship of 2 people sitting around and smartphone on their hands instead of interaction in person - it doesn't work that way. Put your phones down and talk or make love.

Scene maker

It is very often that I see this on street especially on the party night. When you fight in the public, it doesn't only make people around feeling uncomfortable but it also makes you both pushing each other away from each other. Especially, when you are not the one starting it. Most of the fights always involve with the third person which is even worse when it comes to publicity. Time to find private place to talk about that guys.

Keep it inside and burst it out once at a time

I have written about what Kreng Jai is here and also iceberg culture here which explain how most of Thai guys are and that leads to this explanation on how they keep all the conflict inside and once the limitation level is reached the nightmare begins. Yes, they can keep all the conflicts inside without saying anything until it's too late and you are gonna be shocked to see that.

Again, try to talk openly guys.

There will be no fight in our relationship

A relationship without fight would be amazing as you two can leave peacefully. Many of you might love to have that kind of relationship. But you know what they say? "A relationship with fights is a healthy relationship" Fighting helps you two understand each other and make it easier when it comes to compromise. However, if fight becomes part of the day of your relationship then It is no longer a cool healthy relationship.

No forgiveness 

Again we come to part of "grudge holder" kind of thing. When one of you makes mistake - whether it is big or small - the good manner of that is to apology but once the apology is offered, it should be accepted. Holding the grudge on things doesn't make anything good. If you have made mistakes, learn how to forgive and believe me by forgiving you don't just get your guy in a good mood, you might also have something else upcoming ;)

Bad Communication

There is one painful obstacle for western-asian relationship - language. Yes English is mainly the connector for you two. Your Thai guy may often misinterpret your English and start some drama and when he starts a drama there's no ending for that no matter how much you will explain but relationship isn't all about going out together, make love, sex or calling each other 24/7. Spend some time to teach your boy the language and culture which effectively teaches him who you really are and what he should understand.

Stalkkkk! 

Yes I know many of you have experienced being spied on by your Thai guys. It might be phone checking, stalk you down the street or even check all of your Facebook messages. I totally understand how uncomfortable it could be and this is another topic of "trusting each other" I am not saying that you should work yourself so hard to make him trust you but I am saying that what you think is not right - Just don't do it and if he still starts it with no reason then there should be another education from you. 

It's a relationship with full of conversation about his ex

You can skip this if you and your guy is very first time in a relationship. OK, you might say that it is alright that he talks about his ex but imagine he keeps comparing you and all you do with his ex - man that sucks! As well as you, you know the degree of how jealous your Thai guy is, don't ever try on bringing up about your ex. 

Being Siamese Twin 

It's really cute to do things together and that makes you both get closer to each other quickly but hey there should be space between you two for something or someone else like your friends. This is not bad thing to not always be with your boy. It, on the other hand, makes your time together more valuable. Like "Distance grows the heart fonder".

He is your follower

Being leader is really good sometimes but that doesn't mean you have to lead all the time. You might have a boyfriend who always asks you to take him out but when you ask him where to go he answers "I don't know, you lead" Well, isn't that annoying? By being the only one who comes with idea is like you are interacting with old cell phone which can only what you commands. Most of Thai guys just think it might be better to let you lead the way as he thinks you are smarter but help him come up with something by collecting his data and turn him from homophone to a high-end smartphone.

Lies

I've repeated this for the millionth time because I think this is really important for a healthy relationship. Most of dramas that I mentioned earlier usually come from lies either by you and him. Once the lie is made, another have to be made and it will never end. White lie would be fine but make sure it won't turn to be tainted lie.